Have you ever had someone ask if you would help out and you just wish they would be forward enough to say, “Hey, I need your help and I’d like to request your assistance.” Or maybe you’ve had someone tell you to do something and it takes you a split second to look over your shoulder before looking that other person square in the eyes to say, “You’re kidding, right?”
I’ve narrowed down some of the ways people communicate – so here we go:
Sometimes it’s important to ask someone if they’d like to help you or go somewhere with you. Maybe you’d ask them to join in on an adventure or help you make a work decision. The person being asked feels needed, but understands the final decision rests within his/her own power to accept or decline.
- He asked her out for a drink and she said -yes!”
- He asked her if she’d wash the dishes and she said -no!
Then there are requests. Requests are as equally important in our day-to-day living, but they unfold differently. When one requests your presence, your input, your undivided attention, or maybe even a song on the radio – it stems from a deep level of trust, comfort, and command. Think of requesting as stepping out of the driver’s seat and telling that other person…I can’t do this without you. Be careful in your requests though or else people might feel you are taking away their free will.
- She requested he give up his friends. :-(
- He requested she not give up and she didn’t. :-)
and the Cat
Then there are cats. Wild cards. No one knows what the hell a cat is thinking. It’s a mystery – a case by case scenario that we must simply figure out as we go along. It’s real-time. It doesn’t follow patterns, rules of engagement, or coding. One is simply in the moment and working off instinct. Meeeow! _^.^_